V. Justice – 5.1 #trrts | trrts.com

 

STEP V. JUSTICE 

The final aspect of the Romans Road to Salvation is the result of salvation. Romans 5:1 has this wonderful message, “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” Through Jesus Christ we can have a relationship of peace with God. Romans 8:1 teaches us, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Because of Jesus’ death on our behalf, we will never be condemned for our sins.

Keywords: Justified, Faith, Peace, Relationship, In Christ, Separation

V Justice

 

 

 

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On the narrow path. Straight and narrow
I follow my compass. Guided by the arrow
Feeling all alone. Alone on this road
I’m on the road. The Romans roadTherefore, since we are justified
acquitted, declared righteous in His eyes
given a right standing with God through faith
Let’s grasp the fact that this love can’t be replaced

And we have the peace of reconciliation
to hold and to enjoy with God and no explanation
except through our Lord & Savior – Jesus Christ
The Messiah, The Anointed One, The Way, Truth, & Life

Praise God for this hero whom rescued us
set us free before we went back to dust
I can fathom love no longer lacking trust
in our Heavenly Father, whom we love so much

“Thank you Dad for sending your son
We couldn’t overcome debt, but he’s the one
Now we live victoriously, we have won
He set us free thanks to the justice done”

Therefore, there is now no condemnation
judged not guilty, of doing wrong in this nation
for we are those who are in Christ
who live and walk in everlasting life

No longer after the ways of the flesh
but after the ways of the spirit (so fresh)
so breathe this breath as we stay clean
and reflect what it means in John 3:18

So let us all believe and let us have faith
I pray we are elected to be blessed with grace
be the salt and light watch the darkness escape
and the flavorless have no favor or taste

“Thank you Dad for sending your son
We couldn’t overcome debt, but he’s the one
Now we live victoriously, we have won
He set us free thanks to the justice done”

In everything, we have won more than a victory
because of Christ who loves us so dearly
I am sure nothing can separate us from God’s love
no powers from below and no powers from above

Not angels or spirits, not life, not even death
not the past or the future, nor presents or debt
nothing in all creation can separate us
from God’s love in ou Lord, Christ Jesus

So throw up your V celebrate with me
step 5 of the romans road to victory
marching to salvation the rest is history
Throw up your V we’re victorious in He

Perago

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Finally, we have this precious promise of God from Romans 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”Would you like to follow the Romans Road to Salvation? If so, here is an example of a prayer you can pray to God. Saying this prayer is a way to declare to God that you are relying on Jesus Christ for your salvation. The words themselves will not save you. Only faith in Jesus Christ can provide salvation!

“God, I know that I have sinned against you and am deserving of punishment. But Jesus Christ took the punishment that I deserve so that through faith in Him I could be forgiven. With your help, I place my trust in You for salvation. Thank You for Your wonderful grace and forgiveness – the gift of eternal life! Amen!”

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The 1st step on the Romans Road to salvation
is Romans 3:23, hear my explanation“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
We have all sinned. We have all done things wrong
displeasing to God & no one is innocent
So lets 180 the script. It’s time to repent
a detailed picture of what sin looks like in our lives.
In Romans chapter 3 you will find it described

Romans 6:23, teaches us about the consequences of sin
The punishment that we have earned for our sins is Grim
Not just physical death, but eternal death kids
Keep traveling the Romans Road to salvation

“but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Romans 5:8 declares, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Jesus Christ died for us! His love is the love we can trust

Jesus’ death paid for the price once and for all of our sins.
All this is proved through Jesus’ resurrection
This proves that God accepted Jesus’ death
as the payment for our sins. So take a deep breath

The fourth stop on the Romans Road 10:9 just see
“that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead,
you will be saved.” Because of Jesus’ death

on our behalf, all we have to do is believe in Him,
trusting His death as the payment for our sins
And we will be saved! Romans 10:13 says
“for everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

Jesus died to pay the penalty for our sins
and rescue us from eternal death. Salvation,
the forgiveness of sins, is available to anyone to savor
who will trust in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

The final aspect of the Romans Road to salvation
is found in romans 5:1; the results of salvation.
this wonderful message, “Therefore, since we have
been justified through faith, we have

peace with God through Jesus Christ. This is it
Through Our Lord we can have a relationship
of peace with God. Romans 8:1 teaches us,
“Therefore, there is now no condemnation that reaches us”

Because of Jesus’ death on our behalf,
we will never be condemned or take a sinful bath
Finally, we have this precious promise of God
from Romans 8:38-39, now we belong

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life,
neither angels nor demons, neither the present condition
nor the future, nor any powers, neither height
nor depth, nor anything else in all creation,

will be able to separate us from what we lacked before
By the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Would you like to follow the Romans Road to salvation?
If so, here is a simple prayer you can pray to God.

Saying this prayer is a way to declare to God
that you are relying on Jesus Christ for your salvation.
The words themselves will not save you.
Only faith in Jesus Christ can provide saving truth!

“God, I know that I have sinned against you
and am deserving of punishment.\
But Jesus Christ took the punishment that I deserve
so that through faith in Him I could be forgiven.

With your help, I place my trust in You for salvation.
Thank You for Your wonderful grace and forgiveness -
the gift of eternal life! Amen!”

credits

from TRRTS, released 2014
Lyrics & Music by Chris Treborn
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.

IV. Call – 10.9 #trrts | trrts.com

A Day's Wage

 

 

STEP IV. CALL

The fourth step on the Romans Road to Salvation is Romans 10:9, “that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” Because of Jesus’ death on our behalf, all we have to do is believe in Him, trusting His death as the payment for our sins – and we will be saved! Romans 10:13 says it again, “for everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Jesus died to pay the penalty for our sins and rescue us from eternal death. Salvation, the forgiveness of sins, is available to anyone who will trust in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

Keywords: Call, Confess, Believe, Rescued, Saved. 

 

IV Call

 

 

 

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Now for Step four on this Romans tour
Romans 10:9 is rather Devine
in that if you confess you will be blessed
Jesus Christ as Lord & believe like before
That in your heart & that from the dark
God raised him from the dead, and
You will be saved because you have faith
In death on our behalf take this spiritual bath

All we have to do is believe in Him,
trusting His death as the payment for sin
& we will be saved! Thanks to Jesus for this day
You’ve died in our place now let’s talk about grace
How could you replace all of our disgrace
How could we take what you did to the grave
AnchorMEN, let’s share the good news thanks to you
You provided a way like the entrance to a gate

And now we will pray that we can find the way
Sharing the directions through all the intersections
With our neighbors and especially our fam
It’s time to be a man accept this sacrificial lamb
The great I am with him all is grand
So let’s take a stand & follow his plan
He will guide our steps he knows what’s next
So, before you relax just take a deep breathe

Because tonight
is the night
we begin this flight
and regain our sight
Call it the red eye
watch the son rise
We cannot deny
the reason for his life
Because tonight
is the night
we begin this flight
and regain our sight
Call it the red eye
watch the son rise
We cannot despise
the purpose of his demise

III. Gift – 5.8 #trrts | trrts.com

STEP III. GIFT

The third step on the Romans Road to Salvation picks up where Romans 6:23 left off, “but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Romans 5:8 declares, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Jesus Christ died for us! Jesus’ death paid for the price of our sins. Jesus’ resurrection proves that God accepted Jesus’ death as the payment for our sins.

Keywords: Gift, Life, Love, Paid. 

 

III Gift

 

 

 

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Sin pays
off with death. But
God’s gift
is eternal life
Sin pays
off with death. But
God’s gift
is eternal life

Sin pays off with death. But God’s gift is eternal life
given by Jesus Christ our Lord our lord our lord and savior
But God showed how much he loved us
by having Christ die for us
even though we were sinful
We are what Christ was sent for

You can receive a whole healed put together life
Right now with more and more abundant life
On the way. Don’t delay because today’s your day
So make way. Don’t say wait. So now let’s pray

If you work hard for sin your whole life
Your pension is death the opposite of life
Get the gift of real life delivered by our master Christ
He has paid the price thanks to his sacrifice

Now we’ve been set free & we’re God’s slaves
This will make you holy eternal life giving thanks
We’re helpless yes. No one is willing to die
For an honest person? No one will ask why

Something even greater than friendship is ours
Now that we are at peace with the living God
We will be saved by the life of his son
Although we lost it all. We have won!

Sin pays off with death. But God’s gift is eternal life
given by Jesus Christ
our Lord our lord our lord and savior
But God showed how much he loved us
by having Christ die for us
even though we were sinful
We are what Christ was sent for

Though someone might be willing to die
For a truly good person. Go and ask why
Well God showed how much he loved us
By having his son die and be crushed

And even though we were sinful sinners
God has accepted & adopted us as winners
New beginners & humble beginnings that’s love
All because of his son sacrificed his life’s blood

We are also kept from God’s righteous anger
We were enemies and distant strangers
But through his son he has made peace with us
Now we have his friendship and his trust

Something even greater than friendship is ours
Now that we are at peace with the living God
We will be saved by the life of his son
Lost it all yet true victory has been won!

II. Death 6.23 #trrts | trrts.com

PearlessPairable

 

STEP II. DEATH 

The second step on the Romans Road to Salvation, Romans 6:23, teaches us about the consequences of sin –“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” The punishment that we have earned for our sins is death. Not just physical death, but eternal death! Keywords: Wage, Death, Eternal.

Keywords: Debt, Wages, Death, Eternal. 

 

II. Death

 

 

 

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You can be slaves of sin and die,
or you can be obedient slaves of God know why
and be acceptable to him.
You used to be slaves of sin.
But I thank God that with all your heart
you followed the example set forth
in the teaching you received.
Now you are set free
from sin and are slaves who please God.
I am using these everyday examples, all because
in some ways you are still weak.
You used to let the different parts of your body speak
& be slaves of your evil thoughts.
But now you must make every part of your body serve God,
so that you will belong completely to him.
When you were slaves of sin,
you didn’t have to please God.
But what good did you receive from the things you did?

All you have to show for them is your shame,
and they lead to death in the grave
Now you have been set free from sin,
and you are God’s slaves. This will make you holy again
and will lead you to eternal life.
Sin pays off with death that’s right
But God’s gift is eternal life
given by our Lord Jesus Christ.

Goodbye old self goodbye old friends
Goodbye old me goodbye old sins
We have been freed and born again
Our savior rescued us from our sin

Now we’re on the road to salvation
We’re on the road to salvation
Lets share the good news across the nation
The Romans road to salvation

I. Fallen – 3.23 #trrts | trrts.com

Ø Welcome

 

 

STEP I. FALLEN 

The first step on the Romans Road to Salvation is Romans 3:23, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” We have all sinned. We have all done things that are displeasing to God. There is no one who is innocent. Romans 3:10-18 gives a detailed picture of what sin looks like in our lives.

Keywords: Sin, Fallen, Short, Standard. 

 

I. Fallen 3.23

 

 

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What’s the difference between the sinner and the saint?
we are all ruled by sin, just as it has been said.
The Scriptures tell us, “No one is acceptable to God!
Not one of them understands or even searches for God.
They have all turned away and are worthless.
There isn’t one person who does right. Are they all worth less?
Their words are like an open pit, and their tongues are good (wait)
only for telling lies like deadly fangs of a snake,
Spitting bitter curses. Till their hearses
These people quickly become violent. Wherever they go,
they leave ruin and destruction. As if they don’t know
They don’t even fear God.” God treats everyone alike.
He accepts people only because they have faith
in his son Jesus Christ.All of us have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory.
This is our story yet we give our own glory
This is His story and he alone deserves glory
Singing empty praises, you’re not telling the whole storyGod shows how angry he is with all the wicked youth
sinful people do evil things to crush the truth.
They know all that can be known about God, I mean
Although God’s eternal power and character cannot be seen.
God has shown what these are like by all he has made.
These people don’t have an excuse for how they behave
They know Him, but they don’t honor or thank him from the heart
Their thoughts are useless, their minds are stupid and they’re left out in the dark.
They claim to be wise, but they are fools. They don’t worship God
Instead, they worship human looking idols… who are flawed
God let these people go their own way to do what they wanted to do,
their filthy thoughts made them do shameful things with their bodies too
They gave up truth about God for a lie, and worshiped creation
instead of God, who will be praised forever and ever! Amen!

Perago #trrts | trrts.com

More than an outro, this is a reprise of the entire album, all 5 steps included. It is finished.

 

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Finally, we have this precious promise of God from Romans 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  Would you like to follow the Romans Road to Salvation? If so, here is an example of a  prayer you can pray to God. Saying this prayer is a way to declare to God that you are relying on Jesus Christ for your salvation. The words themselves will not save you. Only faith in Jesus Christ can provide salvation!
 

“God, I know that I have sinned against you and am deserving of punishment. But Jesus Christ took the punishment that I deserve so that through faith in Him I could be forgiven. With your help, I place my trust in You for salvation. Thank You for Your wonderful grace and forgiveness – the gift of eternal life! Amen!”

A Day’s Wage #trrts | trrts.com

When approaching the 5 steps of TRRTS, I was trying to figure how to add to the performance and the story of these scripture heavy songs. I decided to use the parable about A Day’s Wage. I knew this applied to Salvation or the Kingdom of Heaven as Jesus puts it. Without doing into the doctrine of election or free will, I thought this would be a great story to share within the context of The Romans Road To Salvation.
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Matthew 20:1-16English Standard Version (ESV)

Laborers in the Vineyard

20 “For the kingdom of heaven is like a master of a house who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. After agreeing with the laborers for a denarius[a] a day, he sent them into his vineyard. And going out about the third hour he saw others standing idle in the marketplace, and to them he said, ‘You go into the vineyard too, and whatever is right I will give you.’ So they went.Going out again about the sixth hour and the ninth hour, he did the same. And about the eleventh hour he went out and found others standing. And he said to them, ‘Why do you stand here idle all day?’ They said to him, ‘Because no one has hired us.’ He said to them, ‘You go into the vineyard too.’ And when evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman, ‘Call the laborers and pay them their wages, beginning with the last, up to the first.’ And when those hired about the eleventh hour came, each of them received a denarius. 10 Now when those hired first came, they thought they would receive more, but each of them also received a denarius. 11 And on receiving it they grumbled at the master of the house, 12 saying, ‘These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.’ 13 But he replied to one of them, ‘Friend, I am doing you no wrong. Did you not agree with me for a denarius?14 Take what belongs to you and go. I choose to give to this last worker as I give to you. 15 Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or do you begrudge my generosity?’[b] 16 Sothe last will be first, and the first last.”

Footnotes:

  1. Matthew 20:2 denarius was a day’s wage for a laborer
  2. Matthew 20:15 Or is your eye bad because I am good?

PearLess PairAble #trrts | trrts.com

When approaching the 5 steps of TRRTS, I was trying to figure how to add to the performance of these scripture heavy songs. I decided to grab an old song of mine and remake it since it applies to the theme within TRRTS. This song (originally called When Adam Ate The Apple) is the perfect bridge between FALLEN and DEATH. If Romans contains the road to salvation within its text, then Genesis contains the fall of mankind and the origin of how death entered the world. This is why this pear-less pair-able makes sense to include within the them of The Romans Road To Salvation.

 

 

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When Adam ate the apple, that was the first day…
when he knew it was wrong to walk away.
He became ashamed because he disobeyed.
He wish he didn’t take a bite, and true he would’ve stayed.
He found out the truth, though it was strange.
He could have lived forever without any change.
When Adam ate the apple, that was the genesis.
The beginning of the end.
Now, it’s time to finish this!

 

Ø. Welcome – 1​.​16 #trrts | trrts.com

THE ROMANS ROAD TO SALVATION
lays out the plan of salvation through a series of Bible verses from the book of Romans. When arranged in order, these verses form an easy, systematic way of explaining the message of salvation & hope in Christ, Jesus.There are many different versions of The Romans Road
To Salvation with slight variations in Scriptures, but
the basic message and method is the same. Many people memorize and use The Romans Road To Salvation when sharing the Good News. This is what we plan to do. Share the Good News as AnchorMEN with our families and our local communities.

 

 

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(The) Romans road (to)
Sal-vation!*Welcome friends and family
To: The Romans Road to Salvation
Let me greet you with peace and grace
I hope this reaches you… (in your place not in your face)*

This is for your kids and the future generations
This is for our legacy and the lasting nations
When we are gone and our lives live on
No names will be remembered all except for one

Jesus, the notorious the glorious the story of us
don’t ignore us we are simply Christians
sent here on a mission
*To share this divine vision and pray you heed the wisdom
Don’t keep it to yourself please share it with friends as well as your children*
Don’t just read it & learn it you gotta walk it and talk it out
Gotta live it don’t keep it in your pocket gotta give it out
These free gifts are for everyone
These simple truths are for everyone
For all your daughters and all your sons
For all your peers for everyone!

Beyond the pain we will endure the rain
They think we’re insane we’ll our savior was slain
It’s not a game plus we prayed for change
So where’s the change you are the change
Lets be the change and change the game
We can make a change for a change in his name

I said Jesus. Our savior and our Christ.
The messiah. The author & finisher of life
He died for our sins. He sacrificed
Go check the facts You know that’s right
He died and rose again. Soon he will be back my friend
He will make you strong. Where you’re failin’ and lackin’

These free gifts are for everyone
These simple truths are for everyone
For all your daughters and all your sons
For all your peers for everyone!

No more slackin’ or relaxin’
it’s time to take action He’s coming back son

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An Introduction to Romans #trrts | trrts.com

Thank you for taking the time to visit our site. We pray this resource can be a tool you can use to lead your flock down the road to righteousness no matter their age. As an AnchorMAN, I Chris Treborn wanted to share the good news of Jesus with my family, especially my young children.

At first this was a hip-hop project of a Gospel message & Rap lyrics. Although these lyrics are scripture heavy, the words are simple enough to memorize especially with the beat.

My plan slowly faded and God took control. It turned into a site and a resource. It turned into a leader’s guide to help people like you understand the scriptures found in the book of Romans, and some key words that helped define each step. I even researched illustrations for us to share with our kids to help them relate to the message here.

The more I share The Romans Road To Salvation, the bigger the vision becomes. I am currently finishing up the recording of the Soundtrack to this project, and I pray we can help launch a discussion with your family, a small group, a bible study, or even a sermon series. Only God knows the limit to what TRRTS can do for you and your flock, your family, your community.

With your help, we can do the great commission and go and make disciples. And not only that, but we can teach these simple truths that will help lay the foundation and provide a road map for their road to righteousness. Of course there is only One Way. Through Jesus Christ. So let’s unite in the Holy Spirit and go forth.

We have been called to be AnchorMEN. Men and spiritual leaders anchored into Christ as our solid rock. We are breaking the chains of disconnected generations and connecting to the cornerstone.

Let’s do what AnchorMEN do, and share the Good News.
In Jesus’ name! A-MEN!!!

Chris Treborn | AnchorMEN

Pastor Anthony Trask of Fellowship Church in Salem, Oregon shares valuable insight on the Book of Romans from the Apostle Paul’s perspective.

from TRRTS Sermon by Anthony Trask Music by Chris Treborn

Don’t bear false witness, that goes for lying too!

http://youtu.be/Mz_F_Dna7Rg

God tells the Israelites to not bear false witness about their neighbors. So what does this mean? It means we should not lie to or about our neighbors! Similar to how God asks us to always honor His name in the third commandment, we should be careful with how we speak to other people. We should also be careful how we speak about other people when they are not around! God wants us to care for our neighbors in the words that we say. He also wants us to always tell the truth, because He is a God who loves truth and always tells the truth to us.

You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor

Don’t steal! Don’t even steal back from what’s been stolen from you

http://youtu.be/AvHTnp0wqbk

God tells the Israelites not to steal. When you think of stealing, you may think of a bank robber stealing money – which is against God’s commandment. But all forms of stealing from our neighbors are against this commandment. We shouldn’t steal things that belong to other people, but we also shouldn’t steal ideas or cheat people out of things that are rightfully theirs. This is another commandment that God uses to remind us to honor and love our neighbors!

You shall not steal.

Don’t even lust in your hearts!

 

God tells the Israelites not to commit adultery. This means that when we are committed to another person through marriage, we should stay true to him or her and not fall in love with someone else. God gave us the gift of marriage, and He wants us to honor that commitment because it is a way of honoring Him. God asks us to put Him first, and to not stray and worship other gods or idols. Just like that, God asks us to put our marriage first before all other human relationships, and we are not supposed to stray from it either!

You shall not commit adultery.

Stepfamily Rewards #Blended

Luke 4:18 tells us that he was sent to proclaim good news to the poor, the prisoner, the blind, and the oppressed. Jesus came to turn spiritual outsiders into insiders. All of us—you and me—were outsiders until his grace found us and made us his sons and daughters. One response of embracing this good news is humble gratitude.

 

 

When gratitude takes root in stepfamily members it can result in insiders (biological family members) making the powerful choice to embrace outsiders (stepfamily members). For example, when stepparents and stepchildren emulate Christ and invite one another in, something powerful happens. The uncomfortable outsider finds belonging, jealous and hardened hearts soften, selfishness dissipates in the face of sacrifice and love, and God is made central in that home. This is a profound reward every blended family would relish. But there’s more.

 

 

Healthy stepfamilies can experience many rewards including some of the following:

 

 

 

 

  • High quality marriages. Couples can create mutually satisfying, intimate, God-honoring marriages within stepfamilies.

 

 

  • A new marital heritage to celebrate. For children of divorce a healthy marital relationship can counteract the negative and destructive patterns of marriage they witnessed in their parent’s divorce.

 

 

  • Healthier kids. A loving, well-functioning stepfamily over time can negate many of the detrimental psychological impacts of divorce on children.

 

 

  • Shared respect and care between stepparents and stepchildren. Children, once empty due to the abandonment of a parent, can bloom under the loving care of a stepparent.

 

 

  • Experienced love, extended grace. When stepfamily members extend love and grace to one another and “bring the outsider in” they are emulating God’s grace to them. In so doing, children are blessed, hurts are healed, and the family is redeemed to God’s glory.

 

 

 

 

This is good news!

 

The Lord’s Spirit

has come to me,

because he has chosen me

to tell the good news

to the poor.

The Lord has sent me

to announce freedom

for prisoners,

to give sight to the blind,

to free everyone

who suffers

Helping Kids Caught in the Middle #Blended

To understand the behavior of children in stepfamilies (including adult stepchildren), you must understand loyalty and the natural tug-of-war it creates.

 

 

Cameron’s mom has been asking him for a month whether he wants to spend the majority of his summer vacation at his dad’s house or with his mom and stepdad, but she can’t seem to get a definite answer out of him. He talks in circles about where he’d like to be but won’t give her an answer. She’s growing impatient with him.

 

 

Loyalty refers to our devotion and attachment to the people we love. It refers to where we choose to put our allegiances. In stepfamilies, people generally place their first loyalty with their biological family members. Cameron feels caught between his biological parents and wants to spend his summer vacation with both of them. But to choose one means he can’t be with the other; it also it means jeopardizing the feelings of one parent should he choose to be with the other. For Cameron, choosing is a no-win tug-of-war.

 

 

Feelings associated with the loyalty tug-of-war often include feeling protective or defensive of one parent while spending time with the other, guilty for enjoying a stepparent knowing their biological parent feels left out, or sorrowful when embracing a new family means letting go of a deceased parent.

 

 

If a spirit of fear, that is, believing that loving one person will hurt another, places children in the tug-of-war, a spirit of love will take them out of many of their loyalty battles. Fear in adults dishonors the attachments of children, love honors them. Fear strives to keep children emotionally near for personal benefit (often an act of aggression toward an ex-spouse); love confidently gives them permission to love others knowing that they have enough love to go around. Fear pulls harder on the tug-of-war rope while love releases it. This is how you help your children find relief from the tug-of-war.

 

 

Biological Parents:

 

 

 

 

  • Give your children permission to like, respect, and love the many different members of their stepfamily. A mom might say, “I’m so glad you enjoyed your time with your dad and stepmom this weekend. I think that’s great.”

 

 

  • Ex-spouses should act civil toward one another. Criticism of the other parent, court battles, sarcasm, and an uncooperative spirit implicitly asks children to choose which parent they prefer or agree with.

 

 

 

 

Stepparents & Grandparents:

 

 

 

 

  • Don’t try to “replace” biological parents (living or deceased). The more you try to force your way in, the more resistant children tend to become.

 

 

  • Grandparents: affirm the new couple and family. Showing partiality to the original family signals to grandchildren that they should remain loyal to the previous family and not open themselves to the stepfamily.

Don’t mistreat someone who has mistreated you. But try to earn the respect of others, and do your best to live at peace with everyone.

Dear friends, don’t try to get even. Let God take revenge. In the Scriptures the Lord says,

 

“I am the one to take revenge

and pay them back.”

 

The Scriptures also say,

 

“If your enemies are hungry,

give them something to eat.

And if they are thirsty,

give them something

to drink.

This will be the same

as piling burning coals

on their heads.”

 

Don’t let evil defeat you, but defeat evil with good.

 

Step-by-Step Stepparenting #Blended

Stepparenting can be tough. Stepparents frequently report feeling confused about their role, displaced from their spouse when the stepchild is around, helpless to change the situation, and guilty because they know that God is expecting them to love their stepchildren, even though they sometimes don’t.

 

 

Finding an effective stepparent role is a challenge—you must persevere to find success. Here are some practical tips for the journey.

 

 

Relationship Building Tips for Stepparents

 

 

 

 

  • Play! Having fun is a great way to connect.

 

 

  • Track with them. Know what activities a child is engaged in and enter that world. Take them to practice, ask about an activity, and take interest in their interests.

 

 

  • Share your talents, skills, and hobbies.

 

 

  • Communicate your commitment. Let the child know you value and want a relationship with them.

 

 

  • Share the Lord and your walk. Shared spirituality can facilitate connection and a sense of family identity, but don’t be preachy. Instead share with humility your faith journey so they will experience you as a safe person.

 

 

  • The cardinal rule for stepparent-stepchild relationships is this: Let the children set the pace for their relationship with you. For example, if your stepchildren are open to physical affection from you, don’t leave them disappointed. If they remain aloof and cautious, respect their boundaries. As time brings you together, slowly increase your personal involvement and affections.

 

 

  • It’s important that stepparents not consider themselves failures if they do not form deep emotional bonds with every child. The length of time required to move into this role depends on multiple factors, most of which are beyond the stepparent’s control. Enjoy the relationship you have now and trust that investments made over time will increase affection and respect.

 

 

 

 

Do’s and Don’s for Stepparents

 

 

 

 

  • Early on biological parents must pass power to stepparents so that children understand that stepparents are not acting on their own authority

 

 

  • Parents and stepparents negotiate rulestogether behind closed doors and seek unity in leading the family. The biological parent then communicates the rules to the children with the stepparent’s support.

 

 

  • Stepfamilies, where both parents bring children to the stepfamily, still negotiate rules together, but each takes the lead role with their own children.

 

 

  • Over time as emotional bonds with stepchildren deepen, stepparents can become more authoritative and shows of affection can become more common.

 

 

  • Don&’t be harsh or punish in a way inconsistent with the biological parent. This tends to polarize parents and create marital discord.

 

 

  • Do focus on relationship building with each child. This is your long-term strength as a parent-figure.

Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around us! So we must get rid of everything that slows us down, especially the sin that just won’t let go. And we must be determined to run the race that is ahead of us.

 

Protecting Your Stepfamily Marriage #Blended

God’s design for the family begins with marriage laying the foundation for the home.  But stepfamilies are at a disadvantage when they begin because the couple isn’t the foundation. Because parent-child relationships predate the new marriage and are bonded by blood, history, and family identity, the marital relationship is often a secondary relationship in the home instead of the foundational one. Unless your marriage becomes primary, you will continue to experience distress and instability in your home.

 

 

The process of establishing the couple as the foundation relationship of the home can feel like a win-lose situation for biological parents and children. It’s not. It’s a matter of significance.  Not that a spouse matters more than children, but rather that the marriage matters more to the stability of the home, than do children.

 

 

Children will never suffer neglect because their biological parent makes a strong commitment to their spouse, the stepparent. Couples in biological families where the marriage preceded children naturally sit “in the front seat” with one another yet still make plenty of sacrifices on behalf of their children. Even still the couple maintains their first-love commitment to one another.

 

 

A similar balance is healthy in stepfamilies.

 

 

Tips:

 

 

 

 

  • Set a regular date night and keep it. Prioritizing time for one another helps children see the importance you place on your relationship.

 

 

  • Support your spouse’s parental role with your children. Back them up and insist that your children treat them with respect.

 

 

  • Biological parents: spend regular one-on-one time with your kids and remain involved in their activities. This reinforces that they haven”t “lost” you and paradoxically makes acceptance of your marriage easier. This is the both/and balance.

 

 

  • Stepparents should insist out loud that the biological parent spend time with their children. This communicates that you are not in competition with the kids.

 

 

  • When children show signs of stress or anxiety as you “move your spouse into the front seat of your heart”, be sympathetic, but don’t let guilt put distance in your marriage.

 

 

  • When children challenge the role of the stepparent, respond firmly and with compassion. “You’re just changing the rule because she wants you to,” is a common complaint. Acknowledge the child’s confusion and move forward. “You’re right. Things are different now that Linda and I parent together. And if I were you, I’d be upset about this, too. But this is the new rule and I’m in agreement with it, so please abide by it. Let’s go.”

One day, Sarah noticed Hagar’s son Ishmael playing,and she said to Abraham, “Get rid of that Egyptian slave woman and her son! I don’t want him to inherit anything. It should all go to my son.”

Abraham was worried about Ishmael.

 

How to cook a step family #Blended

 

Whether you realize it or not, you have a set of assumptions about how to cook your stepfamily. By that, I mean your approach to how your stepfamily “ought” to come together.  Brenda was cooking her family with a blender.

 

 

“It happened again the other night,” she began. “My 14 year-old son, Braden, walked in the living room and started asking me to help him with his math homework when his stepfather, Tim, who is much better at math than me, was sitting right there. Braden never asks Tim for help with anything. It makes me so frustrated. I told him he had to ask Tim for help.”

 

 

Obviously Brenda’s goal is to help her son connect with his stepfather. Her method of cooking is to force them together, much like what a blender does to the various ingredients, by pushing Braden to ask Tim for help. There is nothing wrong with Brenda’s goal, but there is something misguided about using a blender to force the ingredients together.

 

 

This “blender” cooking method attempts to force people to love each other, rather than allowing them responsibility to apply Christ’s command to love one another—in a gradual manner that is tolerable for them.

 

 

That’s the problem with many common cooking styles used by adults in stepfamilies: they tend to create pressure which inadvertently builds walls between the various “ingredients.” Food processor parents chop up one another’s history when they demand that stepchildren call their stepparent “daddy” or “mommy.”Microwave parents avoid labels like “stepfamily’ because they don’t want to be any different than biological families while pressure cooker parents insist that family members celebrate the holiday in the exact same manner.

 

 

Smart stepfamilies understand that relationships take time and that the forcing action of “blending” creates resistance, not connection. As the video suggests, they cook with a crock-pot. For example, if we could rewind Brenda’s run-in with her son, a crock-pot mentality might have calmed her anxiety and reminded her that since right now her son feels most safe with her, she should respond to his dilemma.  Over time, that might change as Braden shares more of himself with Tim and their relationship matures.  Asking his stepfather for help at that time will more comfortably flow from their bond.  Until then, Brenda should be patient with her son, not push too hard, and keep reminding herself that they aren’t finished cooking yet.

But I am giving you a new command. You must love each other, just as I have loved you.

 

Children Are Definitely Part of the Package #Blended

 

Couples who marry and form a blended family are often surprised to discover that stepfamily living is far more complex than they anticipated. They soon learn that their expectations for how quickly the family will harmonize were unrealistic.

 

 

 

 

  • Love doesn’t happen instantly.

 

 

  • Being previously married doesn’t necessarily equip you to be married to someone new.

 

 

  • Experience as a parent doesn’t adequately prepare you to be a stepparent.

 

 

  • Children are sometimes slow to embrace a stepparent’s authority and the new family as a whole.

 

 

  • And falling in love as a couple doesn’t mean children want to be a family.

 

 

 

 

Yes, children are most definitely part of the package.

 

 

Becoming stepfamily smart is how you prevent the unforeseen aspects of blended family living from sabotaging your home. This involves learning all you can about stepfamily dynamics and connecting with others in your church for mutual support. The trick is to work smarter, not harder, and walk with God each step of the way.

 

 

Your home can be a place of warmth, love, and grace. This series will help get you there.

 

 

Based on The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal. Used with permission. All rights reserved. Get smart about your stepfamily. Visit FamilyLife Blended™ at FamilyLife.com/blended

God loves you and has chosen you as his own special people. So be gentle, kind, humble, meek, and patient. Put up with each other, and forgive anyone who does you wrong, just as Christ has forgiven you. Love is more important than anything else. It is what ties everything completely together.

 

Blended Family: Becoming Stepfamily Smart #Blended #AnchorFAM

 

Devotionals for the week of June 1st – 6th

The Blended Family: Becoming Stepfamily Smart reading plan provides practical, realistic solutions to the unique issues that stepfamilies face. Integrating a stepfamily is rewarding and at times challenging; but the odds of your success increase dramatically when you see a picture of how a healthy blended family looks and acts. Each day starts with a video clip of stepfamily expert Ron Deal speaking and includes scripture and written content.

Please join us each night at 9pm for this informational guide to being a part of a blended family. Watch for the hashtag Blended, or subscribe via email. You can also stay up to date with our social media outlets;

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New Life Found In His Mission #ActsOfRepentance

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God sent His only son Jesus to Earth for primary purpose: to give us new life. In Luke 5:27-32, Jesus rewords His mission this way: “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repent.” Christ came so sinners like you and I could have new life through our repentance and His forgiveness. Our lives are forever changed when we repent and seek His forgiveness. Christ’s mission is also our mission. We are called to not minister to the righteous, but rather to those who are lost and in need of forgiveness. If you have sincerely repented of your sins and God has forgiven you of those sins, then you have a story to tell to those who need repentance. Your life change can create the same change in the life another. Who do you know that needs to repent and receive God’s forgiveness? How can your story of God’s forgiveness help someone else come to repentance?

 

Jesus Chooses Levi

(Matthew 9.9-13; Mark 2.13-17)

27Later, Jesus went out and saw a tax collector named Levi sitting at the place for paying taxes. Jesus said to him, “Follow me.” 28Levi left everything and went with Jesus.

29In his home Levi gave a big dinner for Jesus. Many tax collectors and other guests were also there.

 30 The Pharisees and some of their teachers of the Law of Moses grumbled to Jesus’ disciples, “Why do you eat and drink with these tax collectors and other sinners?”

 31Jesus answered, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor, but sick people do. 32I didn’t come to invite good people to turn to God. I came to invite sinners.”

Live As God’s Servants Should #ActsOfRepentance

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Have you ever gotten lost? It can be one of the most frustrating feelings to not know where you are going. In fact, in some situations it can be terrifying. In verse 25, Peter compares us to sheep in that when we were living in sin, we were astray and lost. We didn’t know where to go, but after repenting of our sins and receiving God’s forgiveness we have returned to the flock that is led by God our shepherd. Where do you keep going astray? Maybe you are striving to stay on God’s path, but keep getting sidetracked onto the secondary roads by some sin in your life. Confess that sin to God. Repent of it today and ask God to help you in fully overcoming it.

 

Live as God’s Servants Should

11Dear friends, you are foreigners and strangers on this earth. So I beg you not to surrender to those desires that fight against you. 12Always let others see you behaving properly, even though they may still accuse you of doing wrong. Then on the day of judgment, they will honor God by telling the good things they saw you do. 13The Lord wants you to obey all human authorities, especially the Emperor, who rules over everyone. 14You must also obey governors, because they are sent by the Emperor to punish criminals and to praise good citizens. 15God wants you to silence stupid and ignorant people by doing right. 16You are free, but still you are God’s servants, and you must not use your freedom as an excuse for doing wrong. 17Respect everyone and show special love for God’s people. Honor God and respect the Emperor.

The Example of Christ’s Suffering

18Servants, you must obey your masters and always show respect to them. Do this, not only to those who are kind and thoughtful, but also to those who are cruel. 19God will bless you, even if others treat you unfairly for being loyal to him. 20You don’t gain anything by being punished for some wrong you have done. But God will bless you, if you have to suffer for doing something good. 21After all, God chose you to suffer as you follow in the footsteps of Christ, who set an example by suffering for you.
22 Christ did not sin
or ever tell a lie.
23 Although he was abused,
he never tried to get even.
And when he suffered,
he made no threats.
Instead, he had faith in God,
who judges fairly.
24 Christ carried the burden
of our sins.
He was nailed to the cross,
so we would stop sinning
and start living right.
By his cuts and bruises
you are healed.
25You had wandered away
like sheep.
Now you have returned
to the one
who is your shepherd
and protector.

God Is Light #ActsOfRepentance

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Repentance results in forgiveness. We repent and God forgives. Repentance and forgiveness are not difficult concepts. Repentance is our action and forgiveness is God’s reaction to us out of His perfect love for us. While the process is simple, the power of God’s forgiveness is unfathomable. God’s forgiveness eliminates all darkness in our lives and brings us into the light no matter what sins we have committed. God’s forgiveness covers ALL sins including yours. How has the redemptive power of God’s forgiveness changed and impacted your life?

 

God Is Light

5Jesus told us God is light and doesn’t have any darkness in him. Now we are telling you.

 6If we say we share in life with God and keep on living in the dark, we are lying and are not living by the truth. 7 But if we live in the light, as God does, we share in life with each other. And the blood of his Son Jesus washes all our sins away. 8If we say we have not sinned, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth isn’t in our hearts. 9But if we confess our sins to God, he can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.

10If we say we have not sinned, we make God a liar, and his message isn’t in our hearts.

Turn Back To God #ActsOfRepentance

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What side are you on? That is the question Jesus is asking in Luke 13:1-8. Are you on the side of right or wrong? The right side leads to eternal life, while the wrong side leads to destruction. Jesus’ message is simple: all you have to do is repent of your sins in order to have new life. If you don’t repent, then you will perish. God does not desire to cut us down, but rather He loves us and desires us to bear fruit. What fruit are you bearing in your life currently? What sins do you need to repent of in order to start bearing the kind of fruit God desires?

 

Turn Back to God

1About this same time Jesus was told that Pilate had given orders for some people from Galilee to be killed while they were offering sacrifices. 2Jesus replied:

Do you think that these people were worse sinners than everyone else in Galilee just because of what happened to them? 3Not at all! But you can be sure that if you don’t turn back to God, every one of you will also be killed. 4What about those 18 people who died when the tower in Siloam fell on them? Do you think they were worse than everyone else in Jerusalem? 5Not at all! But you can be sure that if you don’t turn back to God, every one of you will also die.

A Story about a Fig Tree

6Jesus then told them this story:

A man had a fig tree growing in his vineyard. One day he went out to pick some figs, but he didn’t find any.7So he said to the gardener, “For three years I have come looking for figs on this tree, and I haven’t found any yet. Chop it down! Why should it take up space?”

8The gardener answered, “Master, leave it for another year. I’ll dig around it and put some manure on it to make it grow. 9Maybe it will have figs on it next year. If it doesn’t, you can have it cut down.”

A Prayer for Forgiveness #ActsOfRepentance

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Psalm 51 is David’s cry to God for repentance for the pattern of sin he engaged in following his transgression with Bathsheba. You can almost picture David on his knees crying out to God at the top of his lungs in asking Him to wash away his sins. This Psalm also offers us a picture of what repentance should look like in our lives. First, David acknowledges his sin. Next, he asks for forgiveness. Then, he asks God to renew him. Finally, he asks God to help him use his sin to teach those who are engaged in sin and are in need of repentance. What does repentance in your life look like? How could following David’s example of repentance strengthen your relationship with God?

 

(For the music leader. A psalm by David when the prophet Nathan came to him after David had been with Bathsheba.)
A Prayer for Forgiveness
1 You are kind, God!
Please have pity on me.
You are always merciful!
Please wipe away my sins.
2Wash me clean from all
of my sin and guilt.
3I know about my sins,
and I cannot forget
the burden of my guilt.
4 You are really the one
I have sinned against;
I have disobeyed you
and have done wrong.
So it is right and fair for you
to correct and punish me.
 
5I have sinned and done wrong
since the day I was born.
6But you want complete honesty,
so teach me true wisdom.
7Wash me with hyssop
until I am clean
and whiter than snow.
8Let me be happy and joyful!
You crushed my bones,
now let them celebrate.
9Turn your eyes from my sin
and cover my guilt.
10Create pure thoughts in me
and make me faithful again.
11Don’t chase me away from you
or take your Holy Spirit
away from me.
 
12Make me as happy as you did
when you saved me;
make me want to obey!
13I will teach sinners your Law,
and they will return to you.
14Keep me from any deadly sin.
Only you can save me!
Then I will shout and sing
about your power to save.
 
15Help me to speak,
and I will praise you, Lord.
16Offerings and sacrifices
are not what you want.
17The way to please you
is to be truly sorry
deep in our hearts.
This is the kind of sacrifice
you won’t refuse.
 
18Please be willing, Lord,
to help the city of Zion
and to rebuild its walls.
19Then you will be pleased
with the proper sacrifices,
and we will offer bulls
on your altar once again.

When did Jesus of Nazareth really die? #PassoverLamb #GoodFriday

We are approaching Passover as well as Good Friday, and after recently learning about Exodus and the first Passover, I have became extremely interested in the traditions and festivals that Jewish people celebrate as well as holidays Christians celebrate nowadays. As a Christian, I barely know when, and why this all began. After going through Exodus and listening to sermons, I have even searched online for some additional information. I find it extremely interesting that Jesus is referred to as our Passover Lamb by Apostle Paul in his letter to the Corinthians. How likely is it? And why don’t Jewish people realize this celebration and tradition all points to Jesus, the Messiah as our Passover Lamb. Even how God laid down the rules for the selection of the lamb in Exodus reveals He is implying and actually applying this to His son. Crazy, right?

 

So, before we celebrate Passover on the 14th day of Nisan for 7 days, and before we come across Good Friday, let us look and the clues and facts that lead us to find out when Jesus was crucified and punished for all of the sins of the world. Once, and for all!

 

The following is not my research, but that of Jimmy Akin. Please be a Berean when it comes to digesting spiritual information. See if it adds up for yourself. Be your own detective. Please let us know what your thoughts and feelings are on the subject. Please note: all hateful and inconsiderate comments will not be shared or posted. Thank you!

 

 

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We all know that this happened in Jerusalem in the first century.

That separates Jesus from mythical pagan deities, who were supposed to live in places or times that none could specify.

Just how specific can we be with the death of Jesus?

Can we determine the exact day?

We can.

And here’s how . . .

 

Clue #1: The High Priesthood of Caiaphas

The gospels indicate that Jesus was crucified at the instigation of the first century high priest named Caiaphas (Matthew 26:3-4John 11:49-53).

We know from other sources that he served as high priest from A.D. 18 to 36, so that puts Jesus’ death in that time frame.

But we can get more specific. Much more.

 

Clue #2: The Governorship of Pontius Pilate

All four gospels agree that Jesus was crucified on the orders of Pontius Pilate (Matthew 27:24-26Mark 15:15Luke 23:24John 19:15-16).

We know from other sources when he served as governor of Judea–A.D. 26 to A.D. 36–so we can narrow down the range by several years.

But how are we going to get it down to a specific day and year?

 

Clue #3: After “the Fifteenth Year of Tiberius Caesar”

The Gospel of Luke tells us when the ministry of John the Baptist began:

In the fifteenth year of the reign of Tiberius Caesar . . . the word of God came to John the son of Zechariah in the wilderness [Luke 3:1-2].

This picks out a specific year: A.D. 29.

Since all four gospels depict the ministry of Christ beginning after that of John the Baptist had begun (Matthew 3Mark 1Luke 3John 1), this means that we can shave a few more years off our range.

The death of Christ had to be in a range of seven years: between A.D. 29 and 36.

 

Clue #4: Crucified on a Friday

All four gospels agree that Jesus was crucified on a Friday (Matt. 27:62Mark 15:42Luke23:54;  John 19:42), just before a Sabbath, which was just before the first day of the week (Matthew 28:1Mark 16:2Luke 24:1John 20:1).

We know that it was a Friday because it is referred to as “the day of preparation”–that is, the day on which Jews made the preparations they needed for the Sabbath, since they could not do any work on that day. Thus thus cooked food in advance and made other necessary preparations.

The Jewish Encyclopedia states:

Friday, as the forerunner of Shabbat, is called “‘Ereb Shabbat” (The Eve of Sabbath). The term “‘ereb” admits of two meanings: “evening” and “admixture” (Ex. xii. 38); and “‘Ereb Shabbat” accordingly denotes the day on the evening of which Sabbath begins, or the day on which food is prepared for both the current and the following days, which latter is Sabbath.

The idea of preparation is expressed by the Greek name paraskeué, given by Josephus (“Ant.” xvi. 6, § 2) to that day (compare Mark xv. 42; Luke xxiii. 54; Matt. xxvii. 62; John xix. 42). In Yer. Pesaḥim iv. 1 the day is called “Yoma da-‘Arubta” (Day of Preparation) [Jewish Encyclopedia, s.v., "Calendar"].

That eliminates six of the days of the week, but there were still quite a few Fridays between A.D. 29 and 36.

Can we figure out which one?

 

Clue #5: A Friday at Passover

The gospels also agree that Jesus was crucified in conjunction with the annual feast of Passover (Matthew 26:2Mark 14:1Luke 22:1John 18:39).

Here we encounter a momentary complication, because Matthew, Mark, and Luke describe the Last Supper on Holy Thursday as a Passover meal (Matthew 26:19Mark 14:14Luke 22:15). That would suggest that Good Friday was the day after Passover.

However, when describing the morning of Good Friday, John indicates that the Jewish authorities had not yet eaten the Passover meal:

Then they led Jesus from the house of Caiaphas to the Praetorium [i.e., Pilate's palace]. It was early. They themselves did not enter the Praetorium, so that they might not be defiled, but might eat the passover. So Pilate went out to them [John 18:28-29a].

That suggests that the Passover would have begun on sundown Friday.

There are a number of ways of resolving this. For example, some have suggested that Jesus and his disciples used a different calendar than the Jewish authorities, and we know that there were different calendars in use in first century Judaism.

It’s also possible that Jesus just advanced the date of the Passover celebration for him and his disciples. I mean, they were already convinced he was the Messiah and the Son of God. If he says, “We’re celebrating Passover today,” and it’s a day earlier than most people, they’d just go with that. (Note that he made other modifications to the ceremony, such as instituting the Eucharist in the midst of it.)

And there are other solutions.

However, regardless of what Jesus’ movement did, we can look to John’s statement about the Jesus’ captors as an indication of what the Jewish authorities or the mainstream Jewish practice was: They were celebrating a Passover beginning on what we would call Friday evening.

That lets us narrow down the range of possible dates to just a few. Here is a complete list of the days between A.D. 29 and 36 on whose evenings Passover began:

  • Monday, April 18, A.D. 29
  • Friday, April 7, A.D. 30
  • Tuesday, March 27, A.D. 31
  • Monday, April 14, A.D. 32
  • Friday, April 3, A.D. 33
  • Wednesday, March 24, A.D. 34
  • Tuesday, April 12, A.D. 35
  • Saturday, March 31, A.D. 36

As you can see, we have just two candidates left: Jesus was either crucified on April 7 of A.D. 30 or April 3 of A.D. 33.

Which was it?

The traditional date is that of A.D. 33. You will find quite a number of people today advocating the A.D. 30 date.

Do the gospels let us decide between the two?

 

Clue #6: John’s Three Passovers

The Gospel of John records three different Passovers during the ministry of Jesus:

  • Passover #1: This is recorded in John 2:13, near the beginning of Jesus’ ministry.
  • Passover #2: This is recorded in John 6:4, in the middle of Jesus’ ministry.
  • Passover #3: This is recorded in John 11:55 (and frequently mentioned afterwards), at the end of Jesus’ ministry.

That means that the ministry of Jesus had to span something over two years. A fuller treatment would reveal that it spanned about three and a half years, but even if we assume it began immediately before Passover #1, the addition of two more Passovers shows that it lasted more than two years at a bare minimum.

That means the A.D. 30 date is out.

There is not enough time between the fifteenth year of Tiberius Caesar–A.D. 29–and the next year’s Passover to accomodate a ministry of at least two years.

The numbers don’t add up.

As a result, the traditional date of Jesus’ death–Friday, April 3, A.D. 33–must be regarded as the correct one.

Can we be even more precise?

 

Clue #7: “The Ninth Hour”

Matthew, Mark, and Luke each record that Jesus died about “the ninth hour” (Matthew 27:45-50Mark 15:34-37Luke 23:44-46).

“The ninth hour” is what we, today, would refer to as 3:00 p.m.

This allows us to narrow down the time of Jesus’ death to a very specific point in history: around 3:00 p.m on Friday, April 3, A.D. 33.

Of course, there are a lot of detailed arguments that I haven’t taken space to deal with here. But this is the thrust of things.

This is when it happened. 

 

#GoodNews: Kings find out man cannot survive if he ignores God #DrawNear #Intimacy

A PSALM IN CHRONICLES

Israel’s Northern Kingdom lasted less than 250 years. During this time, nineteen kings reigned over this kingdom and all of them were wicked. The longest reign of any king of Israel was 41 years. One king lasted only seven days. Judah, the Southern Kingdom, fared somewhat better. They survived more than 325 years with twenty kings. Seven of the leaders were good; thirteen were evil. One king reigned 55 years, but two governments continue in the two books of Chronicles.

The name Chronicles comes from the Greek word which is related to our word chronology. These books give a colorful and clear account of Israel’s history arranged in sequence. There are several differences between the books of Kings and the books of Chronicles. These are not discrepancies or inconsistencies but omissions. It is necessary to read both if one is to have the full history of Israel. Chronicles emphasizes Jewish ceremony and genealogies, whereas Kings is dominated by the prophets. Jerome, a church father of the fourth century A.D., considered Chronicles the epitome of the Old Testament. Modern readers find these books rich in history and spiritual lessons.

As in the book of Judges, the message of Chronicles comes through clearly: Man cannot survive if he ignores God. We must allow the Creator to govern our personal lives each day. Another lesson we learn in this book is that God is longing to help man. In David’s beautiful psalm recorded here, we find how deeply God desires to assist those who will turn to Him. Riches, honor, and strength come from God to those who love Him. Chronicles shows how hopeless it is for man to try to “go it” alone. Man will always be miserable until he fully turns to Christ with his whole being.

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✪ Review ✪ KSON’s Debut Album “Light In Me”

KSON stands for King’s Son which is an appropriate name for this PK known to his friends as AJ. KSON has been writing and rhyming since he was living in Modesto, California. His Father’s Church was in the heart of the city and it was the first Church I’ve been to in such a shady neighborhood. But this was the heart and intent of KSON and his father all along. They were right in it. I strongly believe this impacted KSON into the man he has become and I know this has had a huge influence on his powerful lyrics.

In 2006 KSON moved to Oklahoma and jumped into the hip-hop scene in the greater Tulsa area. He was blessed with the opportunity to open for KJ-52 and Group 1 Crew. A few of his songs got play on his local radio station as well. All of this just helped him prepare and build up his skill and craft.

Since the beginning of this project, KSON has faced diverse adversity. “I’ll Be Here” reflects just one of his troubling experiences. In the past few years, KSON has been surrounded by darkness, not by choice. It seems as if everything has been against him. But that hasn’t stopped him or slowed him down. He remains a light in a dark place. And although he could have faced harsh depression, he said he will “keep the Light In Me” and shine on like a K Kid should.

This album has strong lyrics backed by hard hitting production. His words hit you quick like jabs from a hard-spitting-emcee like Braille. And like Braille, he isn’t afraid of speaking the truth and attacking all issues he sees. KSON doesn’t just provide trunk rattlers, he provides some soulful music and I’m sure tobyMac would be proud of him. This is just the beginning of the progression of a true artist.

The only thing I dislike about this project is that it is only 9 tracks. But that is okay. We know that with the success from this project, KSON will continue shining from within and sharing the light with us all.

My favorite songs are all the ones with features coincidentally, but if I had to narrow it down, I’ll take; I’ll Be Here, K KID, & Victory as my top three favorite songs from Light In Me.

- Christian Treborn -

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† Devo † Lost and Found #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

In the parable of the lost son, the father restores the rebellious younger brother to his former position at a great cost to the elder brother. Why? His father had divided his property between them before the younger brother left. The younger brother spent his portion and the family estate now belonged to the elder brother. For his father to restore the younger brother meant taking something away from the elder brother and he was angry. His attitude reveals that he had served his father to earn a reward rather than out of love.

As parents, we often have the same attitude towards our Heavenly Father. We are resentful when we struggle with our kids while non-believing parents seem to be coasting along. We feel entitled to greater blessings and we remind God that we faithfully attended church, prayed, and read our Bibles. Ironically, obedience can be the biggest hurdle to experiencing grace because we tend to feel as if we’ve earned it.

There is a true elder brother, however. Unlike the elder brother in the parable, he seeks us and desires to have a relationship with us. He came down from heaven and willingly paid the cost to bring us home. Recognizing what Jesus was willing to do to “find” us makes all the difference.

Obey God in response to His blessings, not to earn them.

Because this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found! And they began to revel andfeast andmake merry.

Luke 15:24

† Devo † Resisting Pressure #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

“You’re the only mother who isn’t letting me see the movie!” “Lauren’s parents are so much cooler that you guys.” “Dad, you’re a control freak.”

Hearing these kinds of statements can really sting. And sometimes, our hurt feelings can cause us to be overly harsh in our words and discipline.

But as Christian parents, we are called to carry out our responsibilities with humility and love rather than sarcasm and guilt. This is only possible when we are confident of our value in Christ and allow His love to hold us up and cover the pain of disrespectful statements.

Don’t let your hurt feelings result in ungodly parenting.

He who has knowledge spares his words, and a man of understanding has a cool spirit.

Proverbs 17:27

† Devo † Identity Theft #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

If you trusted Christ as your Savior, you have a new identity. You are like an adopted child. You have a new name, new family and new traditions. Your old customs have been replaced by new ones that set you apart from those of other families. Paul describes this as being “in Christ”.

Satan would love to steal your identity. He seeks to lure you back to the old identity by tempting you with his family’s customs and traditions — anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language (Col 3:8), but you can resist his identity theft by practicing the customs of your new family — compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience (Col 3:12).

Your children were born into your new family’s traditions, and they should be raised that way. Your practice of the new customs will expel the old ones from your life. Your new identity based on your adoption into the family of God, is a powerful incentive for them to want to be adopted as well.

Protect yourself and your children from spiritual identity theft.

And set your minds and keep them set on what is above (the higher things), not on the things that are on the earth. For [as far as this world is concerned] you have died, and your [new, real] life is hidden with Christ in God.

Colossians 3:2-3

† Devo † Fervent Prayer #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

As we tackle the details of life, we may neglect the most important thing; praying for our kids. Do you find yourself too distracted or exhausted to pray? Perhaps your prayers have become a bit routine? Paul gives us an example of a great prayer warrior in Epaphras. What does it mean to “labor fervently” in prayer? The Greek word used here is agoonizomenos (the English word is agonize) and describes the struggle of an athlete as he competes. It implores us to throw ourselves into prayer with persistence, discipline, and zeal.

Imagine if we invested as much time and effort praying for our kids as we spend on their sports activities–buying uniforms and equipment, going to their practices, and cheering them on at games!

Follow the example of Epaphras in praying fervently for your kids.

Epaphras, who is one of yourselves, a servant of Christ Jesus, sends you greetings. [He is] always striving for you earnestly in his prayers, [pleading] that you may [as persons of ripe character and clear conviction] stand firm and mature [in spiritual growth], convinced and fully assured in everything willed by God.

Colossians 4:12

Call of Duty: Spiritual Warfare

When was the last time you felt like you got shot—emotionally, relationally, financially, spiritually? What we tend to do in those moments is look up and ask, “God, where are you? I thought you were good.” What we need to know is that it’s not just us and God. There’s a third variable: Satan and his demons. We are in a war. Do you know your enemy? Your king? What weapons are you using to fight?

I Am Victorious (Ephesians 6:10–24)

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. 14 Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. 16 In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; 17 and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, 18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints, 19 and also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel, 20 for which I am an ambassador in chains, that I may declare it boldly, as I ought to speak.

21 So that you also may know how I am and what I am doing, Tychicus the beloved brother and faithful minister in the Lord will tell you everything. 22 I have sent him to you for this very purpose, that you may know how we are, and that he may encourage your hearts.

23 Peace be to the brothers, and love with faith, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 24 Grace be with all who love our Lord Jesus Christ with love incorruptible.

Know your enemy

You need to know, I need to know, we need to know that it’s not just us and God. There’s a third variable that we absolutely have to factor into everything, and that’s Satan and demons.

We live in a day when, through psychology, through explanation, through a resistance to the supernatural, people don’t even believe in Satan and demons. We turn them into fictitious cartoon characters and mythical parts of our historical narrative; the stories we tell and the fairy tales we enjoy—we don’t think they’re real. We don’t think that Satan is real; we don’t think that demons are real. And so we tend to, every time we are shot, question or blame God, while Satan laughs and runs away.

This is incredibly important. The world is not the way it should be. Not everything that happens is God’s will. There is also God’s enemy. And it’s so important that it’s the final word in the book of Ephesians.

This is a word to the whole church—not just individuals in the church but the whole church, laboring, warring, working together. This is a word for us. It’s a word for you, but it’s word for you as part of us. Jesus loves us; Satan hates us. Jesus has plans for us; Satan has plans to oppose us. Jesus, in every way, will bless us; but Satan will, in every way, seek to undermine that blessing. It’s a war!

Do you know that? Most Christians don’t! We live in a therapeutic culture where God is reduced to a damnable life coach who comes along to ask you what you want and to give you tips and tricks to do a better job, to live for your glory, to be what you want, to get what you want, to do what you want! And in that way, it’s absolutely demonic! God does not exist to bless you; you exist to serve him!

It’s a war! It’s a war! How many of you feel like this life is just a freaking war? You know why? It’s a freaking war! The closer you get to Jesus, the more resistance you’ll get! The more you advance to the kingdom of God, the more shots you’ll take! Don’t be a coward who says, “Oh, things are hard. It must not be God’s will.” The harder it gets, the closer you are to the will of God.

People are not our enemy; Satan and demons are our enemy. The Bible speaks of non-Christians as captives. What happens in a war is an overtaking army then enslaves and takes captives the citizens who are conquered. That’s called earth. The world has been conquered by Satan and demons. We’ve been taken captives in the war.

So, our war is not against the captives; our war is against their captors, Satan and demons. The people would be spiritually, in every way, set free to become the children of God. This is why Jesus says very early in his earthly ministry that he has come to set captives free. That’s what he’s talking about. So, our war is not against the non-Christians. Our war is not against those who would disagree with biblical faith. Our war is against Satan and demons who have taken people captive to do his will.

Satan was created by God. So, he’s not God; he’s not equal to God. You need to know this. He doesn’t share all of God’s attributes. God can be everywhere; Satan can’t. God knows everything; Satan doesn’t. God reads your mind and thoughts; Satan can’t. He’s created; he’s also fallen. He’s rebelled against God. He’s turned his back on God. He’s declared war on God. He’s also very powerful as a spirit being, akin to an angel who has turned to the dark side. He’s very powerful. He’s also been observing human history for thousands of years, so he understands how to read people. He can’t read your mind, but he can read your life and your body language. And we’re not all dealing with Satan because he is limited, but he has demons at his disposal. These are fallen angels, rebellious angels, who joined him in his war against God.

Friends, they are real, and they are really at work in the world. You need to understand this: under Satan’s motivation is ultimately pride. Satan is the most proud being in the history of creation. Meanwhile, God is utterly humble. We see this in the Lord Jesus. Satan has done such a good job in our day that self-esteem is not a vice; it’s a virtue. Independence is not a vice; it’s a virtue.

Some of you don’t even believe in Satan and demons, but let me say that the root of demonic work is always sourced ultimately in pride. “I don’t need to listen to someone else; I’m smart enough. I don’t need to submit to someone else; I can take care of myself. I don’t need to follow someone else; I’m the authority in my own life.” And Satan will, in every way, tempt and test your pride. He fell through pride. The angels who fell with him and became demons fell through pride. And he will tempt you ultimately through pride. You need to know that he is real, that he is really powerful, and that he is really at work. You also need to know that we need to be careful not to make too much of him or too little of him.

Know your King

Number two, know your King. Who do you fight for? You know what? If you don’t know whom you fight for, you’re probably not going to fight well. He says it this way, Ephesians 6:10, “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might.” Who’s the Lord? Our Lord Jesus Christ. You need to know this: it’s his fight. This is his church, right? This is his book. The spiritual battle—it’s his war. It’s not yours; it’s not mine. We’re not the king; it’s not our kingdom. We’re the servants; we’re the soldiers, we labor for a great, glorious, and good King.

Praying in the Spirit

“Praying in the Spirit.” One of the most important things in the battle is communication. You need to talk to headquarters; you need to listen to headquarters. We call that prayer.

He says it’s in the Spirit, so this is different than how other religions pray. See, other religions pray not by the Spirit. The Holy Spirit only indwells the people of God. Other religions may pray, but they don’t pray by the power of the Holy Spirit. They may pray by their own wishful thinking or Satan and demons, but it ain’t by the power of the Holy Spirit, the third member of the Trinity. He says to pray in the Spirit at all times for anything.

Perseverance

He says, “Perseverance.” Perseverance. Four times in this section he uses the language of “stand.” So it’s, “Stand, stand, stand, stand.” A soldier needs to hold his post—right, soldiers? You plant your feet. You stand. You don’t say, “Oh, I feel like I should go to another post. I feel like I should have a—” No, no, no. Hold that line, right? Your king has sent you there to hold that line. Your job? Stand there. Your Community Group in your neighborhood, stand there. Whichever local church you’re in, stand there. Whichever ministry role you’re in, stand there, plant your feet. What we don’t need, is twelve thousand generals. We need one general and twelve thousand faithful soldiers.

Paul’s final words. He says to pray for the leadership. “Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for the saints, and also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains.”

He’s in prison. I’d be shocked if I’m not eventually. The way culture is trending, to preach sin and repentance will soon be hate speech. I don’t know if it’ll happen in five years or fifty years. I would doubt preaching the gospel won’t get you in prison eventually if things continue the direction they are. “That I may declare it boldly”—boldly, boldly—“as I ought to speak.” Pray for me that I would not give up, that I would not back down, that I would not calm down, OK? Pray for our church.

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† Devo † Power of Humility (Pt.II) #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

Here we see how God accomplishes His will through a chain reaction of humble acts. First, Paul and Silas humbled themselves by refusing to run away after the earthquake opened the prison doors. Then the jailer humbled himself when he brought the very prisoners he was assigned to guard to his home where he washed their wounds and fed them! It must have been a powerful testimony because the jailer’s whole family believed in God and was baptized.

Where do you need to humble yourself today? Do you need to apologize to your kids for being sarcastic or harsh? Did you dismiss their feelings in order to defend your own point?

Let your example start a chain reaction of humble acts in your own home.

And he took them the same hour of the night and bathed [them because of their bloody] wounds, and he was baptized immediately and all [the members of] his [household]. Then he took them up into his house and set food before them; and he leaped much for joy and exulted with all his family that he believed in God [accepting and joyously welcoming what He had made known through Christ].

Acts 16:33-34

† Devo † Serving The One True God #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

This verse refers to the journey of the Israelites out of captivity in Egypt to the Promised Land. God alone led the Israelites through the desert. They faced difficulties and trials, many of their own making, but through it all, it was very obvious that God was the only one that could protect and prosper them.

When we guide our children, we should follow God’s example and let them know that no foreign god should be allowed to come between them and the one true God. Keep in mind that “foreign gods” take a variety of forms in today’s world, such as money, power, beauty, and fame. We must be diligent to watch for the influence of these gods in our lives and the lives of our children.

Let your children know that the Lord alone is sufficient to lead your family.

So the Lord alone led him; there was no foreign god with Him.

Deuteronomy 32:12

† Devo † Fighting In The Spirit #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

When Saul turned against David, David was forced to run for his life. At one point, he and his men hid in a cave at the desert oasis of En Gedi. As Saul searched the area for David, he unknowingly entered the very cave where David and his men were hiding. Although David could have easily ambushed and killed him, he refused because he knew Saul was God’s anointed king. He left judgment to God.

When someone has wronged us or our children, we are often tempted to seek revenge. We may gossip, give them the “silent treatment,” or exclude them. We have a choice, however, to live our lives in the spirit or in the flesh. David refused to fight in the flesh, and left Saul’s judgment to the Spirit of God.

Live in the Spirit and allow God to be the judge.

May the Lord be judge and judge between me and you, and see and plead my cause, and deliver me out of your hands.

1 Samuel 24:15

† Devo † A Parent’s Comfort #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

These verses were written by King David during an incredibly turbulent time in his life. One son had been killed, his daughter had been raped, and another son was seeking revenge against him! David had just fled Jerusalem in fear after hearing that his son, Absalom, wanted to overthrow him as king. In David’s position, I doubt very much that the words “I will sing for joy” would come to my mind!

But David saw God’s protection and love as a safe place where he could be comforted. He knew from experience that when he humbly submitted to his Father, he would be upheld by the Lord. This did not mean that God would spare David from the consequences of his actions, but that He would walk with David through the consequences, providing hope and comfort even in the most difficult of circumstances. What an example for us as parents!

We should not rescue our kids from the consequences of their actions, but we can always offer a place of hope and comfort.

For You have been my help, and in the shadow of Your wings will I rejoice. My whole being follows hard after You and clings closely to You; Your right hand upholds me.

Psalm 63:7-8

† Devo † Be a Light To Others #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

In these verses, Paul confronts the believers in Philippi because their complaining and arguing was harming their testimony about Christ. Instead of being “lights in the world”, they were behaving like unbelievers.

We may profess a deep trust in Christ, but what we truly believe will emerge in our words and attitude. Take a moment to consider your conversations. What characteristics would stand out to your children? Do you have a tendency to gossip, argue with others, or complain?

If so, you may want to reevaluate the source of your contentment. As Christians, we have an eternal hope in Christ that allows us to face the challenges of life with calmness and peace. If you find yourself relying on favorable circumstances or the actions of others to bring you happiness, ask God to strengthen your faith in Him.

Let your words and actions reflect the love of Christ in your life and be a light to others.

Do all things without grumbling and fault finding and complaining [against God] and questioning and doubting [among yourselves], That you may show yourselves to be blameless and guileless, innocent and uncontaminated, children of God without blemish (faultless, unrebukable) in the midst of a crooked and wicked generation [spiritually perverted and perverse], among whom you are seen as bright lights (stars or beacons shining out clearly) in the [dark] world

Philippians 2:14-15

† Devo † Being Seen and Known #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

Although she did not call out to him, Jesus saw the widow who had lost her son. How wonderful to be seen by the Son of God! Not only did He see her, but this verse says His heart went out to her. He connected with her suffering.

What encouragement for us as parents. Jesus sees us, too, but not in a casual, indifferent way. He feels our pain and He knows our struggles. You can take comfort in knowing that as you walk the sometimes difficult and painful path of parenthood, His heart goes out to you as well. Remember that you are not alone. He is walking alongside you this very day.

You are known and loved by the Son of God.

[Just] as He drew near the gate of the town, behold, a man who had died was being carried out–the only son of his mother, and she was a widow; and a large gathering from the town was accompanying her.13And when the Lord saw her, He had compassion on her and said to her, Do not weep.

Luke 7:12-13

 

† Devo † Strength From Weakness #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

When raising kids, there are situations that make us feel inadequate because there is nothing we can do to “fix” the situation. Maybe our child’s feelings were hurt when they were excluded from a party. Perhaps a love interest “dumped” them or they were cut from a team.

One of our biggest obstacles in trusting God is our own sense of strength. The truth is we can never be too weak for God to use us, but we can be too strong. When we recognize the limits of our control, however, we are much more likely to embrace our need for God.

Let your weaknesses become an opportunity to point your kids towards the real source of strength; dependence on Christ.

But He said to me, My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you [sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully]; for Mystrength andpower are made perfect (fulfilled and completed) and show themselves most effectivein [your] weakness. Therefore, I will all the more gladly glory in my weaknesses andinfirmities, that the strength andpower of Christ (the Messiah) may rest (yes, may pitch a tent over and dwell) upon me! So for the sake of Christ, I am well pleased andtake pleasure in infirmities, insults, hardships, persecutions, perplexities anddistresses; for when I am weak [in human strength], then am I [truly] strong (able, powerful in divine strength).

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

† Devo † Covering Shame #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

The Garden of Eden was perfect until Adam and Eve brought sin and shame into the world. God covered their shame, but that covering came at a cost. To provide the skin needed to make garments, an innocent animal was slain.

What a foreshadowing of Christ’s work on the cross! Jesus, the Lamb of God, shed His innocent blood for our sin so God could cover our shame as well. And, although the Bible does not specify, would anyone be surprised if the animal slain in the Garden of Eden turned out to be a lamb?

God demonstrated the response of a loving Perfect Parent; He covered the shame that caused Adam and Eve to hide. Then, He delivered consequences for rebellion in a way that Adam and Eve (and their descendants) were taught a powerful lesson about His provision of righteousness in the future.

Had God not first covered their shame, Adam and Eve may not have received the lesson. God’s act of covering them demonstrated He would never leave or forsake His children. Adam and Eve could receive the lesson because they loved and trusted the Teacher.

Covering shame makes teaching possible.

For Adam also and for his wife the Lord God made long coats (tunics) of skins and clothed them.

Genesis 3:21

† Devo † God’s Example of Empathy #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

Eating from the tree did not have the result Adam and Eve hoped. While they became like God in their ability to recognize both good and evil, they soon realized it was their own evil that was revealed. The result? Shame entered the world for the first time.This single verse from the Bible has astounding ramifications! Despite Adam’s and Eve’s blatant disobedience, and the fact that incredibly significant consequences were going to be delivered, God responded with perfect empathy. After they committed the most significant sin of all time, God acknowledged their feelings and made garments of skin to cover their shame!What an amazing and loving Father we have! As parents, we must try to model that same empathy to our kids, even in the midst of their disobedience. How? By soliciting their thoughts, feelings, motivations, and insecurities even as we deliver necessary consequences and grieving with them over the tough, but necessary lessons of life.

As you experience God’s incredible love, let the overflow of a grateful heart motivate and guide your parenting.

 

Benefit Concert: Driving Tabitha!

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When: Wednesday, August 21, 2013 @ 6:15pm

What: This is a benefit to raise funds to provide Tabitha Schulke with a wheelchair equipped van!

Who: Featuring Performances By Starship Renegade, Cry Of Stones, Unlockable Praise, & The Mzungu’s!

Invite friends via Facebook!

† Devo † No More Hiding #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

After Adam and Eve ate from the tree, they realized they were naked. In response, they hid from God and sewed fig leaves together to cover their nakedness. God’s response to Adam’s sin was a question: “Where are you?” Now, you can be certain that God had not misplaced Adam! He asked the question for Adam’s benefit, not His.

The legacy of Adam and Eve’s act is that we are still hiding today. Shopping, food, drug and alcohol abuse, and sometimes even exercise represent our “fig leaves.” Still, God continues to ask us, “Where are you?” He is calling for us to come out of hiding and into a relationship with Him.

What an example for parents! Call your kids out of hiding by asking open-ended questions and listen to their answers with understanding, rather than meeting them with judgment and shame. If you need to give consequences for their disobedience, choose to give those consequences with empathy.

Meeting your kids with empathy helps them come out of hiding and into relationship.

But the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, Where are you? 10He said, I heard the sound of You [walking] in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.

Genesis 3:9-10

† Devo † God’s Design #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

As Christians, we should spend our lives discovering and using our spiritual gifts, and the same is true of our kids. This pursuit is essential if we are to accomplish God’s purpose for us, because we can’t do anything for Him without the gifts He gave us. With those gifts, however, we can accomplish a lot!

Isn’t it encouraging that God equips us specifically to do the things He has called us to do? That is the beauty of spiritual giftsÑthey enable us to minister as God intended. Of course, the reverse is also trueÑwhen we try to do anything other than what God has enabled us to do, we fall outside His design for us and we are destined to fall short.

Help your kids uncover their God-given gifts, cultivate them and help them put them to work, for the glory of the Lord.

Having gifts (faculties, talents, qualities) that differ according to the grace given us, let us use them: [He whose gift is] prophecy, [let him prophesy] according to the proportion of his faith.

Romans 12:6

† Devo † Moms and Dads #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

These verses describe the qualities necessary to raise well-rounded children in a spiritual family. Some of these qualities are associated with moms, such as patience, gentleness and a devotion for her children that makes her want to spend time with them and nourish them, physically and spiritually. Other qualities are associated with dads, such as encouragement, comfort and urging their children to live lives worthy of the Lord.

Paul and the other missionaries supplied these qualities to the believers in Thessalonica so that they could grow spiritually. He filled the role of both mom and dad, and he also gave us a beautiful picture of the needs of kids and the roles of parents in meeting those needs. Whether you are in a one- or two-parent family, the kids’ needs are the same. But take heart, God will equip each of you to do the job He has called you to (Heb. 13:21).

Trust God for the strength and qualities necessary to raise your children.

For you know how, as a father [dealing with] his children, we used to exhort each of you personally, stimulating andencouraging and charging you12To live lives worthy of God, Who calls you into His own kingdom and the glorious blessedness [into which true believers will enter after Christ’s return].

1 Thessalonians 2:7,11-12

† Devo † Discernment #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

 

Paul’s prayer for the Philippians could easily be our prayer for our kids. Who doesn’t want their children to abound in knowledge and insight and be pure and blameless, making decisions that reflect God’s righteousness? How will you help them reach those lofty goals?

One way is to give your kids more choices and opportunities to learn from hands-on experience. Good decision making isn’t learned overnight. Your kids may have to make some poor choices along the way before they will know how to make good ones. Obviously, you won’t give them just any choice because they should only be given choices you are willing for them to make. But the opportunities to give significant choices are endless.

Practice with little choices for little kids and more expanded choices as kids mature. Walk beside them as they get their hands dirty. Enjoy the process!

Kids who are encouraged to make lots of appropriate choices gain knowledge, insight, and discernment.

And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more andextend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight [that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment], So that you may surely learn to sense what is vital, andapprove andprize what is excellent andof real value [recognizing the highest and the best, and distinguishing the moral differences], and that you may be untainted andpure and unerring andblameless [so that with hearts sincere and certain and unsullied, you may approach] the day of Christ [not stumbling norcausing others to stumble]. May you abound in andbe filled with the fruits of righteousness (of right standing with God and right doing) which come through Jesus Christ (the Anointed One), to the honor and praise of God [that His glory may be both manifested and recognized].

Philippians 1:9-11

† Devo † Relief #AnchorFAM #ParentingByDesign

We all make mistakes in parenting at times; we will yell at our kids, lecture or nag them, rescue them from their mistakes, punish them harshly, etc. This does not surprise God. He knows and He is willing to forgive it all. You can surrender your guilt and your shame to Him. He will take your selfishness and neglect, too, if you turn to Him and confess.

That’s a great relief! God is in charge, and He is willing to work alongside you to raise your kids. When you do something wrong, He will help you model humility as you confess your sin to them and ask for their forgiveness. Sometimes God even uses our mistakes as opportunities to connect with our children in a more personal way.

Rely on the Perfect Parent and He will purify all your mistakes.

If we [freely] admit that we have sinned andconfess our sins, He is faithful and just (true to His own nature and promises) and will forgive our sins [dismiss our lawlessness] and [continuously] cleanse us from all unrighteousness [everything not in conformity to His will in purpose, thought, and action].

1 John 1:9